Stylin'

[blinker]

Inspired by various people's "so-and-so took me off their friends list" dramas, I decided to do something about my objection to the LJ interface's use of the word "friend." This required learning how to mess around with custom styles, which turns out to be relatively simple (if slightly inconvenient in that one can't easily apply the customizations to all of one's pages in one fell swoop).

Comments

[lcohen]

go you!!

on the other hand, "say something interesting" puts a lot of pressure on a gal. ummm. ummm. peggy broke up with michele. how's that?

Restylin'

[slinkr.livejournal.com]

This better? Wouldn't want you to feel pressured.

Re: Restylin'

[lcohen]

heh! i noticed the change before i was notified of your response to my response, etc. thanks for taking my, um, limitations into account.

[lcohen]

oh, and by the way--i agree with you that the "you are/aren't designated my friend" connotation is problematic. (but i loved junior high!!)

especially since what "friend" really translates to is "person whose LJ will appear when you click on my friends page," since you can create groups of friends to have access to individual posts over and above the "friends" designation. if there were a way to edit the list of people whose journals would show up on my friends page, there's a bunch of additional people who i might designate as "friends."

enemy of mine enemy is not my friend?

[bitty.livejournal.com]

if there were a way to edit the list of people whose journals would show up on my friends page, there's a bunch of additional people who i might designate as "friends."

Apparently there is. Check with geminigirl.

Re: enemy of mine enemy is not my friend?

[lcohen]

see now this is when the interface for LJ is problematic--i can't just forward the above to geminigirl and say "well?" i could go to her LJ and make a comment to a post of hers hijacking her topic to ask her, i guess. or i can hope she reads slinkr's journal.

btw, i know how to make it so that only i will see certain people on my friends page--i just would like to streamline the viewing experience of those who read my friends page, as well.

lisa, the control queen

Re: enemy of mine enemy is not my friend?

[geminigirl]

You're in luck...I was reading the comments.

floodland gave me instructions for filtering your friends list. I lost them because my power went out before I saved them, but next time I see him on AIM or IRC I'll ask him.

Re: enemy of mine enemy is not my friend?

[lcohen]

(too weird. i just got three copies of this as e-mail).

anyway, thanks!!! please tell him that i know how to filter who sees what, it's what appears on my friends page when a person other than myself clicks on it that's at issue.

[lcohen]

wow girl! you're really fast!

reward: a different picture to spice up the page--plus i miss seeing hannah during the day

[lcohen]

i just realized that everyone who accesses this through someone's friends page isn't going to have idea one what we're talking about here. when i look at this on my friends page, it just says "post comments." presumably ditto for those who read it through their own friends page. that's sort of annoying.

[pookfreak.livejournal.com]

very nice - I laughed out loud.

I must be missing the whole friends drama - but then I dont' pay that much attention to who has me on their friends lists and who doesn't until I wonder why I can read something I wouldn't have expected to and realize - duh they added me as a friend.

[richwillpowers.livejournal.com]

It's not necessarily people who can read the secret posts, because you can post to (and read) certain subsets of your friends lists by assigning groups. One could have a person listed as a friend and never write a "friends-only" post that they can read.

Solution

[bratman.livejournal.com]

My solution is to be ruthless about who is on my friends list and not give a damn what people think. But I am a brat after all.

Re: Solution

[bitty.livejournal.com]

Hm. And I'm even going to make posts about sex this week.