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1) How would you like your interactions with your mother to be? (Including her interactions with Kelly)

I'd like for my mother to try and see things from a point of view that's more supportive of me than critical. She's often come across as really critical and I'm at a point where I don't trust her anymore. That means that I sometimes don't tell her about good news (like getting into grad school) and I don't call her for support when I'm really stressed out (about things like a gf winding up in the hospital or negative changes in my job security) even though I always wish I could. And when you can't talk about any of the big stuff, it's hard to have pleasant conversations about the small stuff.

As for Kelly, I'd settle for fake politeness at this point. The thing that's really fucked up is that Kelly deserves most of the credit for me still speaking to my family. I almost cut them off for real after a disastrous trip to Maine in 2000, but she's consistently advocated for trying to keep talking to them. If I'd been on my own, instead of in a really supportive relationship, I would have had to stop talking to my family to preserve my sanity.

2) What would your ideal work environment be and how close is your current job to your ideal?

The current job is pretty close. It could do with more resources, slightly less insane deadline pressure, and perhaps a few more places to go work when I needed peace and quiet. But I really like working at a fast pace, learning a ton, having some real influence on the product, and feeling like my work is important. And my stuff is getting used in the field, which is a huge part of my ideal work environment.

3) If you get Kelly to eat one food that she refuses to eat now, what would it be?

I've already done this with tofu, which she wouldn't touch when she met me. That was big because tofu's something I really like to cook with. At this point, the next thing would probably be more leafy greens but I'm not very focused on modifying her diet.

4) Having babies: anonymous sperm donation, co-parenting with another gay couple, or something else?

Probably not co-parenting because Kelly and I have enough trouble working out some issues around raising kids between the two of us, much less with two other adults.

Anonymous sperm donation is an option, as is getting a family member or a friend to be a donor but not a co-parent. Adoption is also an option, but we haven't considered it as seriously because it's expensive and time-consuming.

5) If you could afford to buy/house any kitchen appliance you don't already own, what would you want?

We're pretty well set on appliances. Kelly wants one of those vaccuum-sealing things because we freeze stuff all the time. At this point, I would probably go for more pans because I never seem to have the right size pan for whatever recipe I'm looking at.

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Adoption is also an option, but we haven't considered it as seriously because it's expensive and time-consuming.

this sounds sorta like "we're gonna make our own pickles this year" or something :P